A part of the Dominion is the House of Cameron. At the House are only such devotees, that mentally can - and factually have – submitted to Lord Cameron and accepted and embraced His Mastery over them (yes, I know, a very wanton position). Those who are not accepted in the House belong to the Court of the Dominion. In the House of Cameron, we find the so-called “Chiral girls”. This is not a Kajira ‘slave’ girl, a ‘harem’ member or an unpaid ‘whore’, but some of these elements can, but must not be, included. In the views of Lord Cameron, the Chiral girls are pure magic and real gems …
Perhaps the well-known phrase a Princess by Day and a Slut by Night can help us to shed some light on the matter.
Contrast between Princesses and sluts
If you have never puzzled about the contrast that is apparently seen between the (highborn) Princess and the (low and ordinary) slut, maybe it is time to have a closer look at this. This contrast is very similar to those that we do find between Master and slave, Top and bottom and all other forms where (total) power-exchange takes place in a sound and consenting way. In fact, not so much perversion, pain or dirty sex is typical for BDSM, but rather the play setting with roles that include and enable power-exchange dynamics.
The careful reader will notice, that we just did write ‘dynamics’. We added that phrase to indicate that even with a balance of power between ‘equal’ partners, there will always arise differences that are related to our personality, gender- and sexual identity and social roles. In this case, the reason for adding ‘dynamics’, is that even in an equilibrium, first power did flow freely and volatilely and eventually got balanced. Equality for the law - and a play contract is a legal concept - is an assumed equality (de jure). To keep BDSM balanced and fair, activity most likely is necessary in order to have a de facto equality, with balance and mutual acceptance and recognition. And like in most other kind of social contracts - irrespective if this is based on love, romance, tradition or kink - this equality as a legal right, remains a de jure condition and requires commitment, work and cooperation in order to get it – de facto - realized in true-life and between partners.
Does the Princess denote for primordial innocence?
Now, let us return to the contrast we noticed between the role of Princess and the role of slut. What would be the core properties of both roles? Things that are often mentioned are money, appearance and status; the Princess has it all: beauty, properties and wealth (and Knights on a White Horse). The slut is situated on the other side of the social ladder; used, abused, indecent, uncivil, dirty and poor. But there is more: the slut is also seen as morally inferior, because she trades sex and her body for other goods and services; like money, attention, love, orgasms, prestige or other forms of compensation that would one way or another do justice to her (or his) role as a slut.
When you ask teenagers, if they would rather be a Princess or a slut, very likely none of them would opt to be a slut, except some Lolita’s perhaps. And that brings us to the interesting fact, that so many kinksters on Fetlife and other platforms, love to play with the Princess/slut dynamics, but in reality, hardly anyone would openly identify with being a slut.
In the Dominion, it is Lord Cameron’s view, that in fact, being a Princess is much harder as being a slut. And the reason is that we – out of mere social solidarity - identify with being a victim. Inequality brings with it, that there are Masters and slaves and this is not a very popular social condition in today’s world, where we romantically cling to a golden age and the herewith connected belief that there was some kind of fall from primordial innocence. Further, it is seen, that this fall and inequality is a genuine problem and that this inequality – that denotes for inferiority, discrimination and weakness - should be removed, so all can again find the Holy Grail and be nourished and whole.
What does feminism have to add?
Consequently, regarding inequality, we find in D/s and other kinky relationships where (total) power exchange plays a role, this fight between the comfort of being a poor victim, and the disapproval of dominance, as this leads to the idea that not all animals are equal … Nevertheless, imagining eliminating ‘inequality’ is hard. At least, it is not obvious what this should mean, as people are not all the same and most value their own distinct individuality.
As a handy solution, feminist theory provides us with the distinction between power-over and power-with. Power over is that centralized control that we all fear to eat up our freedom and take away the cherries on the cake (or our sex-tools OMG!). Power-with is the free sharing and exchange of the power that we have, and let others take control in the belief, that the goods (body, soul and mind) entrusted to those on top, will be handled with care, dignity and respect to the one sharing their power with the top in the first place. Here we see, that not much time is wasted on what essentially would denote for equality or legitimation for power shifts, but rather we slip into the role play, because we know it is not real (but play), even when it is real (the pain, submission, the sex).
Now, what does this mean for the so-called Princess/slut mechanics? A Princess is basically rather dull (to the sadist eye), as she must be friendly, benevolent and responsible all the time. Hardly any time for fun, but a whole agenda with appointments, parties and events to attend, to speak, dance of give presence, but she can never let the beast out, let her self-control slip or simply be a slut (which obviously is why she needs the Master’s guidance). Yet, that is in real life context; in the kinky world, the Princess stands a bit for a spoiled Lady too; that gets what she wants and is treated like someone very special and important. Maybe even cold and arrogantly distanced, depending on whether the Princess is having a submissive, switching or dominant nature.
This one is on the House …
In the House of Cameron, the Chiral girl is a Princess-slut by nature. She loves to be taken, she loves to crave for cock(s), to feast on sexual energy and she dares to go all in and let herself fall as deep as she can fall, when orgasming into oblivion. The Lord, her Lord, is an awesome Master; he reigns her from above, bestows on her the heavenly goods and when he comes over her, she takes and relishes in his passion, his power, his love and his surrender to her own most delicious core and essence, knowing that the slut makes the Master in many ways by enabling him to take and enjoy what she has offered him. But we do not see the Princess in the slut in this way. If this was all, it would just be the Master turning the Princess in to the slut and be done after unloading his sticky proteins.
What, in essence, is going on in the kinky role play of the Princess/slut dynamics, is that in the context of consensual BDSM there are mostly winners. The top wins because they love topping, the bottom wins, because they love bottoming. As such, BDSM power exchange forms a nice form of structural inequality, that is not important, as it is by the very condition of inequality, that both top and bottom find their thing.
Is there more to a Princess?
But again, we do not see the Princess in the slut this way, so how do we define the Princess - that beautiful benevolent and classy person? Well, the answer is a tad complicated, but it will show us much about what is going on in the real world. Particularly what is going wrong in the real world and what is being done well in the Dominion of Lord Cameron. This has to do with the idea, that any sane kinky Dominion, House, Pack or Group will have to embrace the properly basic human rights of all their members. This is the base of the equality that we seek for. And this has also been the base for consensual power exchange prior to play praxis, then after all, when we have no power to share, we cannot give it away or over into the hands of those we entrust with our power.
As the position or role of Princess is already part of the play context, in the Dominion of Lord Cameron this means that Princess is not merely what is stripped of, so the slut remains, but Princess is what will be added to the slut – who is already lovely to the heart of the top as such – so the Princess is not becoming the slut, but the slut is lifted up to become the Princess. Of course, the slut, in many ways was a Princess already, but it is the Master adding royalty to the slut, and not because she pays for that, or otherwise could demand this, but it is a voluntary gift of Grace.
The Princess/slut is the loved and valued person, that can trust to the entrusted and be rewarded first with meeting her slutty, filthy, nasty, wanton and horny desires, but also with being appreciated, loved and valued for being able to give and bottom in such a glorious way. On top of that, like any Princess, she will be held in high esteem, particularly outside the play context. Then as a Princess, she will not be the Master’s trophy, possession or trash whore, but an equal, and a person who is a able to perform bottoming in a masterful way. A skilled bottom is valuable, because of her capabilities to delight their tops; because of her knowledge, experience and wisdom that comes with walking the path, that is a mystery to tops and that they can only walk and get acquainted with by walking that path with a (noble) Princess/slut (whore).
Giving back the power, with interest payment, is also part of the power-exchange. Once we have played our games, we return to normality and we see the Princess that became the slut, transform again in the Princess that has been enriched, improved and beloved, by her Grace to let herself be a slut, in a suited, safe and worthy context. And such a virtual place, the Dominion of Lord Cameron desires to be and a magical place, where common sluts can be transformed to beautiful Princesses.
Play safe and have fun – Sir Cameron
As always, this is not absolute or ultimate truth, but an attempt to reflect and contemplate on things, mechanisms and praxis that is near to us and dear to us. For the form, we have used certain genders and pronouns for top and bottom, but this can, may and will vary. Most of the above remains equally valid, when we exchange her for him, Mistress for Master or hir for they.